“I want our Archdiocese to lead the way in the care of victims.”Archbishop Joseph Naumann
We use a Model of Accompaniment grounded in restorative theory in caring for survivors of church sexual abuse. This is more than simply helping and serving others; it is a model that recognizes the harm caused by abuse in the church and actively works toward healing through atonement. We strive to walk actively with survivors, sharing in their sorrows and their joy, walking side by side as they work toward healing. It is first and foremost about our responsibility and solidarity with survivors of church abuse. The basis for this accompaniment is found in the Christ-centered relationship in which God accompanies us in Jesus Christ and through the Holy Spirit to restore and reconcile human relationships. It is saying “Where you go, I will go. Where you stay, I will stay” (Ruth 1: 16-17)
Survivor Support Group
The church’s first response as a community of believers toward victims/survivors of abuse is for healing and reconciliation. A new Survivors Support Group is a way to assist victims of abuse by any church worker — priest, deacon, religious, employee or volunteer — whether the abuse was recent or occurred many years ago.
- The Survivors Support Group meets twice monthly
- Meetings are held at a location in the Johnson County, KS area
- This is a safe, supportive environment to talk about the impact to your lives and your feelings, to know you are not alone, and to promote healing
- To protect the privacy of potential participants, please contact the Victim Care Advocate for information on days, times and location of the meeting by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org or calling 913-298-9244
- Must be at least 18 years of age to participate
Finding a Therapist
As part of our accompaniment of survivors, we can help identify and coordinate trauma-specific services provided by therapists trained in clinical interventions that are designed to address trauma-related symptoms, including PTSD. Trauma-informed counseling is evidence-based and promising prevention, intervention, or treatment services that address traumatic stress as well as any co-occurring disorders (including substance use and mental disorders) that developed during or after the trauma.
For additional information please contact our Victim Care Advocate, , at 913-298-9244 or via email at email@example.com.
What is Restorative Practice theory?
Restorative practices is a social science that studies how to improve and repair relationships among people and communities when there has been harm. The purpose is to build healthy communities, to repair harm, and to restore relationships as much as possible. The Office for Protection and Care is enhancing our program using Restorative Practices when facilitating services for survivors.
What does this approach look like?
We are shifting our approach to be:
- Inclusive and
To support survivor needs, first and foremost, but also the needs of the community harmed by the abuse, Restorative Practices recognizes the survivor is central to the process and places the focus on the needs of the survivor. Secondary survivors — someone who knows someone close to them whom experienced sexual violence — can also experience harm. A survivor’s experience of sexual violence impacts parents, siblings, spouses, children and other loved ones. Therefore, it is important to consider the needs of the survivor as well as their community.
How does this theory consider the needs of the survivor and their community?
Restorative practices look at:
- Who has been hurt?
- What are their needs?
- Whose obligations are these?
- Who has a stake in this situation?
- What is the appropriate process to involve stakeholders in an effort to put things right?
Restorative Practices involves active engagement, participation and accountability to respond to the harm and to make things as right as possible. It allows the survivor to share their experience and to be heard through active listening and compassionate, caring responses. The archdiocese believes restorative practices may help bring healing and peace to survivors wounded by sexual abuse.
Monthly Rosary for Healing and Protection
We invite you to support to our brothers and sisters who have been wounded by sexual abuse in the church by praying in solidarity for their healing and for the protection of all who are vulnerable. This rosary lifts up our prayers to God through Mary’s loving intercession; it is offered the third Wednesday of each month at 7:45 AM. www.livestream.com/archkck/healingrosary
The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops have a Rosary Guide available for Healing and Protection [LINK to https://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/child-and-youth-protection/upload/Rosary-for-Healing-Printable.pdf)
A Prayer for Healing Victims of Abuse
God of endless love,
ever caring, ever strong,
always present, always just:
You gave your only Son
to save us by his blood on the cross.
Gentle Jesus, shepherd of peace,
join to your own suffering
the pain of all who have been hurt
in body, mind, and spirit
by those who betrayed the trust placed in them.
Hear the cries of our brothers and sisters
who have been gravely harmed,
and the cries of those who love them.
Soothe their restless hearts with hope,
steady their shaken spirits with faith.
Grant them justice for their cause,
enlightened by your truth.
Holy Spirit, comforter of hearts,
heal your people’s wounds
and transform brokenness into wholeness.
Grant us the courage and wisdom,
humility and grace, to act with justice.
Breathe wisdom into our prayers and labors.
Grant that all harmed by abuse may find peace in justice.
We ask this through Christ, our Lord. Amen.
Prayer Written by a Survivor
This prayer was written by an Abuse Survivor in Ireland.
Lord, we are so sorry
for what some of us did to your children:
treated them so cruelly,
especially in their hour of need.
We have left them with a lifelong suffering.
This was not your plan for them or us.
Please help us to help them.
Guide us, Lord, Amen.
Pontifical Commission for the Protection of Minors Prayer for Victims and Survivors of Sexual Abuse, Prayer 1
Since your mercy has been revealed
In the tenderness of your Son Jesus Christ,
who said to his disciples:
“Suffer the little children to come unto me”,
we pray that your Church may be a secure home
where all children and vulnerable adults are brought closer to your Beloved Son.
May all those who have been abused
physically, emotionally and sexually by your ministers,
be respected and accompanied by
tangible gestures of justice and reparation so that
they may feel healed with the balm of your compassion.
We ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen
Pontifical Commission for the Protection of Minors Prayer for Victims and Survivors of Sexual Abuse, Prayer 2
who loves and cares for all of your children, especially the smallest and most vulnerable, we entrust to you the lives of the many children and vulnerable adults, who have been sexually abused, and whose trust and innocence have been destroyed. Help us to hear their cries of pain and to take responsibility for so many broken lives.
We pray that within their communities and families they may find understanding and support so that with the help of your grace their wounds may be healed, and they may again know peace.
Grant this through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who shared our weakness in all things but sin, and lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit forever and ever.
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- 7 Secrets of Divine Mercy, by Vinny Flynn
- Abuse of Trust, by Allen Hebert
- Acts of Recovery, by Michael Hoffman
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- Altered Girl, by CM Morgan
- Be Healed, by Bob Schuchts
- Beginning to Heal, by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
- Catholic & Mourning a Loss, by Mauryeen O’Brien
- Catholic Boy Blues, by Norbert Krapf
- Changing Lenses, by Howard Zehr
- For Christ’s Sake, by Bishop Geoffrey Robinson
- Good News About Sex and Marriage, by Christopher West
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- Healing the Wounded Heart, by Dan B. Allender
- Hidden Presence, by Gregory F. Augustine Pierce
- Hope, by Marshall Jung
- In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, by Gabor Mate
- In the Shadow of the Cross, by Charles Bailey, by Jr
- Letter to a Suffering Church, by Bishop Robert Barron
- My Peace I Give You, by Dawn Eden
- Navigating the Interior Life, by Daniel Burke w/ Fr. John Bartunek
- On the Path: Affirmations for Adults Recovering from Childhood Sexual Abuse, by Nancy W., by M.Ed.
- Pretty Eyes Pastor, by Tiffany Denmark
- Protect us from All Anxiety, by William Burke
- Resurrection After Rape, by Matt Atkinson
- Say Something, by Cathy Morrison
- Shaken by Scandals, by Paul Thigpen (editor)
- Shattered Soul?, by Patrick Fleming with Sue Lauber-Fleming & Vicki Schmidt
- Shrinking the Monster, by Norbert Krapf
- Spirit and Dust, by Maura Hanrahan
- Tear Soup, by Pat Schwiebert and Chuck DeKlyen
- The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Van Der Kolk M.D.
- The Gospel of Winter, by Brendan Kiely
- The Journal of My Broken Life, by Carolee J. Horning
- The Little Book of Circle Processes, by Kay Pranis
- The Little Book of Restorative Justice , by Howard Zehr
- The Little Book of Victim Offender Conferencing, by Lorraine Stutzman Amstutz
- The Ropes the Bind, by Tracy Stopler
- The Shack, by Wm. Paul Young
- The Voice of an Angel, by Marcy Stone
- Veronica’s Veil, by Rev Lewis Fiorelli, by T. Pitt Green
- We Dare to Say; An Adventure in Journaling, by Kenneth Trainor
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- MOCSA (Metropolitan Organization to Counter Sexual Assault) www.mocsa.org
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: suicidepreventionlifeline.org 1-800-273-8255
- Elvis Presley – The Miracle of the Rosary – words and lyrics https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Ge4mFZDV_MBryan and Katie Torwalt – Holy Spirit https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LaRHOItRfZgCory Asbury – Reckless Love https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sc6SSHuZvQEJean Watson – St. Patrick’s Breastplate (Prayer of St. Patrick)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1OCffhjHYwLauren Daigle – I Will Rescue You https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gYR0xP1j4PYLauren Daigle – You Say https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sIaT8Jl2zpI&list=RDgYR0xP1j4PY&index=2Jean Watson – Prepare the Way https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HX87kmeeiJICasting Crowns – Love Moved First https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qDdTt7AB0gI&feature=youtu.be